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A Life Untold By Dallaa Moussallati

A LIFE UNTOLD

‘Dallaa Moussallati brings us a sensitive imagining of life after death.’

Debut author Dallaa Moussallati has loved writing ever since she was a child, but decided to wait to write her novel A Life Untold. “I believe everything happens and evolves at the right time,” explains Dallaa. “It took thirty-six years for me to gain courage and strength and begin my career as a writer. It’s never too late!”

A Life Untold follows Zara, who wakes up in hospital completely disorientated. She cannot understand why she is there, or even remember who she is. And why can nobody see her? All is made clear, however, when she meets the surprisingly charismatic Angel of Death’s Head Assistant, or D.A.

“You’re going to die, my dear. Your time here is over. Well, almost over. You will live for another seven days, not including today. Today is Sunday, so your soul will leave next Sunday God willing. I’ll get the exact time; all the details are here in your book… at six-thirty in the evening on May 14th.”

Now Zara must travel back in time with D.A. and witness her life over the course of her last seven days on Earth. She will be reminded of her good and bad deeds, and the impact she has had on the people around her. But will her journey take her through to the Hereafter, or is her death not as inevitable as she thinks?

A Life Untold is a fictional memoir, based on Dallaa’s own life story. It discusses many contemporary issues such as different cultures, love, marriage, loss of children and loved ones, oppression, psychological well-being, courage, and strength. It shines a light on many painful issues women are faced with today. It also encourages all to take a different perspective on hardship and to perceive difficulties as a means to grow and gain strength. It will appeal to those looking for an uplifting and thought-provoking tale.

DALLAA MOUSSALLATI started teaching English as a foreign language seven years ago. She is passionate about psychology, for which she holds a BSc Honours degree, teaching, and writing.

LIFE UNTOLD is available at THE TELEGRAPH Bookshop, WHSmith, TROUBADOR and many more! It is also available at WORDERY ONLINE BOOKSTORE, which offers FREE DELIVERY to over 100 countries.

Poetry

KNOW

KNOW

Know Beauty fades away,

And wealth is not guaranteed to stay,

Know Youth is pure,

And age will inevitably mature,

Know Nothing remains the same,

Not age, wealth, health, or fame,

Know – We will come and go,

And when the time arrives we can’t say no,

Know Whom we are going back to,

He is the One that created me and you,

Know – If we loved Him here,

He will love us there,

Know He told us it would be this way,

But, we decided we wanted to stay,

Know Life on the other side is evergreen,

All we have to do is make sure our hearts stay clean,

Wipe all the greed away,

 Smile and help others in a gentle way,

Know Life is not as complicated, as it seems,

And we will all look back and think it was just a dream.

Dallaa Moussallati

 

 

Poetry

The Wise Man

 

The Wise Man

A wise man once said,

Don’t spend your life in play,

It wouldn’t be worth the stay.


Don’t think about what you’ve not got,

Because you wouldn’t have a lot,

Live your life to the full,

But know it will end with a simple pull,

Love as if you’re saying goodbye,

Then you wouldn’t have to try,

Give to others without fear of it going away,

That way it will always stay.


A wise man once said,

Don’t spend your life in play,

It simply wouldn’t be worth the stay!

Dallaa Moussallati

 

Reflections

FOOD FOR THOUGHT – CIRCUMSTANCES

 

The chapter on, ‘Effect of Thought on Circumstances’ from ‘As a Man Thinketh’ by James Allen is going to be the focus of today’s post.

Circumstances grow out of thought every man knows who has for any length of time practiced self-control and self-purification, for he will have noticed that the alteration in his circumstances has been in exact ratio with his altered mental condition.

In my last post, I discussed how our thoughts create our actions. This Chapter goes a step further. Allen explains how thoughts effect our actions and also mold our circumstances. A change in one’s circumstances is a result of a change in one’s mental condition.

Good thoughts and actions can never produce bad results; bad thoughts and actions can never produce good results. This is but saying that nothing can come from corn but corn, nothing from nettles but nettles.

Here Allen links thoughts with action, arguing that good thoughts create sound actions. Therefore, it is inevitable to have good results. The same goes for bad thoughts and bad actions. When you put a cake in the oven to bake you never expect to eat a lasagne right? We reap what we sow, our thoughts being the seed and our circumstances the fruit.

DIFFERENT TYPES OF THOUGHT CREATE DIFFERENT TYPES OF CIRCUMSTANCES

Men imagine that thought can be kept secret, but it cannot; it rapidly crystallizes into habit, and habit solidifies into circumstance.

Below is a table of different kinds thoughts Allen mentions. Beside the thoughts are the habits the thoughts create and also the particular circumstances that inevitably crystallize.

     THOUGHTS                    HABITS            CIRCUMSTANCES
Bestial – Cruel Drunkenness/Sensuality Destruction/Disease
Impure Enervating/Confusing Distracting/Adverse circumstances
Fear- Doubt -Indecision Weak/ Unmanly/Irresolute Failure/Indigence/ Slavish dependence
Lazy Thoughts Uncleanliness/ Dishonesty Foulness/Beggary
Hateful- Condemnatory Violence Injury/Persecution
Selfish Self – seeking Distressing
Beautiful Thoughts Grace – Kindliness Sunny Circumstances
Pure Thoughts Temperance – Self Control Repose/Peace
Courage – Self- Reliance – Decision Productive Success / Plenty/ Freedom
Energetic Cleanliness – Industry Pleasantness
Gentle -Forgiving Gentleness Protective / Preservative Circumstances
Loving – Unselfish Self – Forgiveness for others. Sure/Abiding Prosperity / True Riches

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ACTIVITY

A man cannot directly choose his circumstances, but he can choose his thoughts, and so indirectly, yet surely, shape his circumstances.

  1. For the next three days keep a notepad and pen close by. Start to try and be the observer of your thoughts, don’t change them at this stage just be aware of their presence.
  2. Write down the thoughts that are persistent; the ones that run through your head all day. At the end of the three days look back at the chart above. Try and identify what kind of thoughts you are having.
  3.  Look a little deeper and observe what kind of habits they are creating and finally what kinds of circumstances are evolving.
  4. Are your findings similar to those of James Allen?

I would love to hear about what you found!

Dallaa Moussallti

 

 

 

Reflections

FOOD FOR THOUGHT – A MAN IS LITERALLY WHAT HE THINKS

In the next few posts, I’m going to focus on a book called, ‘As a Man Thinketh’ by James Allen. James Allen was a British philosophical writer and a pioneer of the self-help movement. ‘As a Man Thinketh’ was published in 1903.

Thought and Character

A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts.

Allen believed one’s character is ultimately created by the accumulation of his/her thoughts. This is a fascinating concept when wanting to understand yourself on a deeper level and dare I say, if consistently applied could be life changing! Let’s take a cake as an example. What is a cake made of? Sugar, flour, baking powder, butter, etc. You can’t make a cake without these ingredients, right? Well, Allen argues, thoughts are the ingredients that create one’s character.

So every act of man springs from the hidden seeds of thought, and could not have appeared without them. This applies equally to those acts called ‘spontaneous’ and ‘unpredicted’ as to those which are deliberately executed.

Every action comes from a ‘hidden thought.’ This makes sense; we don’t tell everybody everything we are thinking, however, our actions, the way we behave is quite a good indicator of what’s going on in our minds. Allen argues all acts deliberate or unintentional are rooted from thoughts. Have you ever done something spontaneous (positive or negative) and questioned, why on earth did I do that? Well, if you go back to the time in your life before that spontaneous act and contemplate, you’ll probably find there was a cluster of thoughts that led you up to that particular action.

Man is the master of thought, the molder of character, and maker and shaper of condition, environment, and destiny.

We give shape to our lives God willing. Allen urges us to stop and contemplate on the past or even the present and find the missing link. One of the laws of living is that of, ‘cause and effect.’ The effect being our current situation and the cause, of course, is our thoughts. Being more aware of what’s going on in our minds aids us to not only understand ourselves but also be in tune with the unfolding of our lives.

Allen’s theory has depth and wisdom. I would argue it could be achieved; one can tame the mind and have productive thoughts, however reaching that level of consciousness is not easy. But, the results once change of thoughts has been implemented and the life changing effects may be worth the process!

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ACTIVITY

  1. For the next three days keep a notepad and pen close by.
  2. Start to try and be the observer of your thoughts, don’t change them at this stage just be aware of their presence.
  3. Write down the thoughts that are persistent; the ones that run through your head all day.
  4. At the end of the three days write down where you are in life, what did you do? What events took place? Who did you see, not see? How did you feel?
  5. Go back to your list of thoughts, can you a find a correlation between your thoughts and your actions?

I would love to hear about what you found!

Dallaa Moussallti

Reflections

BETWEEN STIMULUS AND RESPONSE THERE IS A SPACE

 

‘Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.’

Victor Frankl

Victor Frankl was a Holocaust survivor. He could have given up on life during and after his terrifying experiences in a concentration camp. However, this was not the case. Frankl picked up on something in his darkest hours that not only helped him survive and thrive through the atrocities he went through, but he also went on to aid millions of individuals all over the world.

Victor Frankl observed people’s behaviours while being tortured he also went a step further and studied their reactions. He argued that sometimes in life you don’t have a choice in certain situations you are faced with; however, the choice of how to react in any given situation is all yours and nobody can take it away from you. He found that between stimulus (the situation/event) and response (your reaction) there is a space people often don’t recognise hence are quick to react. Frankl believed that it is in this space that we should stand still. Not forever, but until we have given ourselves enough time to encode what is going on and then only after we have distanced ourselves from the stimulus allow ourselves to react in a way that will benefit ourselves and those around us. Therefore even though you can’t change the stimulus, you can modify the outcome in any given situation through your reaction.

Frankl learned this profound lesson the hard way, through unnecessary and brutal torture. However, his teachings can be implemented in our everyday lives. For instance, let’s imagine you had a habit of losing your temper now and then. The reason for your anger may be entirely justified; nonetheless, stop and question, are your reactions creating the outcomes you want?  What if you played the game of life in a different way? What if you began to acknowledge you have a space which enables you to be in control? A time to think things through, to give yourself time to encode everything that is going on and then allow yourself to react.

Everybody’s life is an accumulation of habits. Implementing the, ‘between stimulus and response there is a space,’ notion is also a habit, a productive one! The more you train yourself to apply it the more you will recognise your abilities to control certain aspects of your life, and the power you have God willing to steer probable outcomes to places you never even imagined.

All you need to remember is to stop and take advantage of the space. Grab on to it, think things through, and then react in a way that will enhance growth and freedom.

Dallaa Moussallati

Reflections

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FACTS AND ASSUMPTIONS

 

 What’s the difference between a fact and an assumption? Do assumptions have an adverse impact on our lives? Have we as a society developed the habit of believing our assumptions are facts?

A FACT

A FACT is something real, something that has occurred and something that is true.

AN ASSUMPTION

AN ASSUMPTION, on the other hand, is something we think about a person, group, belief, place, that may not be true. Therefore an assumption is a belief without proof.

DO ASSUMPTIONS HAVE AN ADVERSE IMPACT OUR LIVES?

 Let’s go back to the theory I love, ‘what you think about you bring about.’

Now when you have a thought, you consciously or unconsciously create an emotion. That emotion either affects you in a positive way or in a negative way. The emotion is then followed by an action. An accumulation of these actions, create your reality.  An assumption is yet another thought you might believe to be true. However, you have no real evidence that it is. But that belief /idea will create an emotion which you will act on. For instance, your teenage son wants to go out, you agree and tell him it’s fine, but you stress he has to be back by ten. It’s quarter past ten and your bundle of joy hasn’t strolled in the front door. Let’s examine three scenarios that may occur:

Scenario 1 – You assume he’s irresponsible, he doesn’t know how much you worry about him, he doesn’t respect you, something’s happened to him, you never liked his friends, etc. The list of all the assumptions popping up in your head could go on and on. These assumptions have now created emotions of fear, anger, resent, hurt, etc. The poor boy walks in at twenty past ten and what do you?  You pounce! Shout, accuse him of being irresponsible, you may even give him the cold shoulder and ignore him. The result- he goes to bed upset, you go to sleep hurt and angry.

Scenario 2 – You look at the clock and notice that he’s late. You choose not to make any assumptions and decide to act on facts. Your little angel walks in at twenty past ten. You smile and ask him how his night was. He tells you he enjoyed it but got a little anxious half way through the party because the friend who was supposed to drop him off decided he wanted to stay longer. He then had to leave the party early to try and find a bus home. You smile, hug him, and you both go to bed happy and content.

Scenario 3 – Your son walks in at twenty past ten. You are calm due to the fact you decided not make any assumptions. You smile when he walks in and ask him how the party went. You come to understand that the reason for him being late is because he forgot about the time.  He doesn’t apologize for his behaviour, so you decide to talk things through. Why don’t you start shouting? Because you’re in control and you haven’t let your emotions get the better of you. He goes to bed respecting you and trusting you more due to the way you dealt with the situation. You go to sleep content that you turned a difficult situation into one, which helped you and your son’s relationship grow.

Moral of the scenarios – don’t act on assumptions, work with facts. Most assumptions aren’t real and often don’t give you the freedom to create the outcomes you want to achieve in life.

HAVE WE AS A SOCIETY DEVELOPED THE HABIT OF BELIEVING OUR ASSUMPTIONS ARE FACTS?

I think we have. We have assumptions about everything from people of different faiths, colours, sizes, relationships, etc. All these assumptions sadly aren’t creating the peaceful world we all want to live in. The solution? Silencing our minds, beginning to train ourselves to act on facts, not assumptions. Give people a chance, give ourselves a chance. However, if worst comes to worst and you can’t get certain assumptions out of your head, try to pause, acknowledge they are there but don’t act accordingly to them, give yourself and reality time to unfold and reveal the truth.

Dallaa Moussallati

Poetry

A Female’s Journey Looking In The Mirror

TWO YEARS OLD – I got a fright,
FOUR YEARS OLD – I thought, ‘What a beautiful sight!’
TEN YEARS OLD – I look different to them,
FIFTEEN YEARS OLD – I wish I were size 10,
TWENTY-FIVE YEARS OLD – There’s so much I need to change,
THIRTY-FIVE YEARS OLD – I’m beginning to like myself, isn’t that strange!
FIFTY YEARS OLD – I’ve been through it all, I’m doing well,
SIXTY YEARS OLD – I’m beautiful inside and out, I’m sixty, but you couldn’t tell!

Dallaa Moussallati

Poetry

Kindness

Kindness is like beginning a piece of art,
There are so many beautiful colours; you can’t wait to start,
With red you can paint an, ‘I love you,’
With yellow, you can write, ‘My words are true,’
With green, you can help people in need,
With blue, you can aid all the hungry that need a feed,
With pink, you can effortlessly give a smile away,
You never know you could make someone’s day!
With gold, you can shower the people around you with love,
Wanting nothing in return, but a prayer ending in, ‘In memory of,’
Kindness can only bring happiness to the heart,
So let’s all start, in painting all our problems away,
And vouch that kindness is here to stay!

Dallaa Moussallati