The Art Of Being Flexible In Our Thinking

Flexible thinking is often discussed in clinical psychology and if adopted is considered to aid people on a personal level and in their relationships. Life is a game; you either win or lose. The game is already over if one’s thinking becomes rigid or uncompromising. Getting set in our ways and believing we have all the answers will only set us back. One characteristic of successful people is their ability to be flexible in their thinking and always contemplating on life with a new set of lenses.

Choosing to be optimistic or pessimistic

Flexible thinkers take both sides of the coin into consideration. They assess both the positive and negative aspects of any given situation. They then make a decision as to what to do next, often choosing the middle way, steering away from being too optimistic or too pessimistic.

We aren’t all the same

Flexible thinkers acknowledge that we live in a world with tremendous diversity. Two people can be looking at the same glass and see it as either being half full or half empty. Flexible thinkers often take into consideration people’s differences when working with others. They see differences in perceiving things as an advantage and listen to others who may have noticed something they didn’t.

Life is an adventure

Flexible thinkers regard life as an adventure. Every experience creates new possibilities, unique lessons to be learned and new understanding. They are more open to give strange things a try, however, crazy or demanding others perceive them to be. They are not afraid of coming out of their shells. They mix with different cultures, have conversations with people of different minds, read a broad range of books and vary the experiences they choose to take on.

To conclude if we are all on the same assumption that our thoughts have a significant impact on our reality. Then it’s only fair to say that if our thoughts are rigid and are always the same our reality will never change. However, if we try to take on a different approach and allow ourselves to be more flexible in our thinking; our world may change. A routine and mundane life could transition to one filled with excitement, never ending possibilities and unexpected joy.

Dallaa Moussallati


The Samurai Warrior


The seventeenth-century Samurai Warrior lived by his four-point key to success. He believed implementing these four factors would inevitably lead to triumph and success.

The Four – Point Key To Success

1. No Fear.
2. No Surprise.
3. No Hesitation.
4. No Doubt.

No Fear

The Samurai Warrior believed nothing should be feared in life. Apparently, there is nothing we should be afraid of, also overcoming our fears boosts self-confidence and helps us tackle future obstacles. So how do we overcome fear? The Samurai Warrior argued we should step right into anything that gives us the jitters. So for instance, if you have a fear of heights you should pluck up the courage and go somewhere you’ve avoided going to in the past. I find most of the fear many of us encounter is about the future, we forget about the present moment and our thoughts about what may happen, paralyze us. However, what we fear the most often never materialize, the thoughts running round in our minds seem to take away the sweetness of the present moment.


Where does hesitation come from? It comes from fear. We’re worried about making the wrong choices. The Samurai Warrior said we should outweigh the pros and cons in any decision in a practical manner and as soon as we’ve made up our minds as to what we want to do, we should go for it and never look back.


NO DOUBT is linked to hesitation. Once we’ve made a decision, we shouldn’t ponder about whether it was the right one. Time will tell. We should move forward with confidence in our choices and ourselves. Focus on the now and believe that whatever we have chosen to do is not only going lead to success but we will also excel.


Do you feel that life seems to be full of little surprises? The Samurai Warrior believed there are no surprises in life. If we are thoroughly engrossed in the present moment, we will be able to pick up little clues about how our lives are unfolding. Therefore we should never be surprised. If we are in tune with our lives at present, not confusing ourselves with thoughts of the past and future, these clues will be similar to little stepping-stones. These subtle hints enable us to be prepared and able to deal with anything that comes our way.

Dallaa Moussallati

A Life Untold

A Life Untold By Dallaa Moussallati


‘Dallaa Moussallati brings us a sensitive imagining of life after death.’

Debut author Dallaa Moussallati has loved writing ever since she was a child, but decided to wait to write her novel A Life Untold. “I believe everything happens and evolves at the right time,” explains Dallaa. “It took thirty-six years for me to gain courage and strength and begin my career as a writer. It’s never too late!”

A Life Untold follows Zara, who wakes up in hospital completely disorientated. She cannot understand why she is there, or even remember who she is. And why can nobody see her? All is made clear, however, when she meets the surprisingly charismatic Angel of Death’s Head Assistant, or D.A.

“You’re going to die, my dear. Your time here is over. Well, almost over. You will live for another seven days, not including today. Today is Sunday, so your soul will leave next Sunday God willing. I’ll get the exact time; all the details are here in your book… at six-thirty in the evening on May 14th.”

Now Zara must travel back in time with D.A. and witness her life over the course of her last seven days on Earth. She will be reminded of her good and bad deeds, and the impact she has had on the people around her. But will her journey take her through to the Hereafter, or is her death not as inevitable as she thinks?

A Life Untold is a fictional memoir, based on Dallaa’s own life story. It discusses many contemporary issues such as different cultures, love, marriage, loss of children and loved ones, oppression, psychological well-being, courage, and strength. It shines a light on many painful issues women are faced with today. It also encourages all to take a different perspective on hardship and to perceive difficulties as a means to grow and gain strength. It will appeal to those looking for an uplifting and thought-provoking tale.

DALLAA MOUSSALLATI started teaching English as a foreign language seven years ago. She is passionate about psychology, for which she holds a BSc Honours degree, teaching, and writing.

LIFE UNTOLD is available at THE TELEGRAPH Bookshop, WHSmith, TROUBADOR and many more! It is also available at WORDERY ONLINE BOOKSTORE, which offers FREE DELIVERY to over 100 countries.

Pearls Of Wisdom, Reflections

A Few Minutes To Reflect – Rumi

Jalal ad-Din Muhammad Rumi was a great man whose words and lessons touched the lives of millions of people for centuries after his death. He was a 13th-century Persian poet, Islamic Scholar, theologian, jurist and Sufi mystic. Below are a few of Rumi’s inspiring and life changing lessons.

1. The most important thing you can change in the world is yourself.

‘Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.’

2. Value and take care of your soul.

‘You know the value of every article of merchandise, but if you don’t know the value of your own soul, it’s foolishness.’

3. Gratitude has hidden miracles. Be grateful for both the positive and negative in your life.

‘If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished?’

‘Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.’

‘Where there is ruin, there is hope for a treasure.’

‘What hurts you, blesses you. Darkness is your candle.’

4. Silence your mind, stop worrying and put your thoughts to sleep.

‘Put your thoughts to sleep, do not let them cast a shadow over the moon of your heart. Let go of thinking.’

‘Be empty of worrying. Think of who created thought! Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open?’

5. Living your life doing things you are not passionate about does not bring you joy. Do what you love doing and do it with a heart full of love.

‘Let yourself be silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love.’

‘Let the beauty we love be what we do.’

6. We are all special and unique.

‘Everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every heart.’

7. You are what you think of yourself. Stop acting so small. Don’t crawl, spread your wings and fly!

‘You were born with potential. You were born with goodness and trust. You were born with ideals and dreams. You were born with greatness. You were born with wings. You are not meant for crawling, so don’t. You have wings. Learn to use them and fly.’

Dallaa Moussallati

Pearls Of Wisdom

The Journey Of Life Quote