What’s the difference between a fact and an assumption? Do assumptions have an adverse impact on our lives? Have we as a society developed the habit of believing our assumptions are facts?
A FACT is something real, something that has occurred and something that is true.
AN ASSUMPTION, on the other hand, is something we think about a person, group, belief, place, that may not be true. Therefore an assumption is a belief without proof.
DO ASSUMPTIONS HAVE AN ADVERSE IMPACT OUR LIVES?
Let’s go back to the theory I love, ‘what you think about you bring about.’
Now when you have a thought, you consciously or unconsciously create an emotion. That emotion either affects you in a positive way or in a negative way. The emotion is then followed by an action. An accumulation of these actions, create your reality. An assumption is yet another thought you might believe to be true. However, you have no real evidence that it is. But that belief /idea will create an emotion which you will act on. For instance, your teenage son wants to go out, you agree and tell him it’s fine, but you stress he has to be back by ten. It’s quarter past ten and your bundle of joy hasn’t strolled in the front door. Let’s examine three scenarios that may occur:
Scenario 1 – You assume he’s irresponsible, he doesn’t know how much you worry about him, he doesn’t respect you, something’s happened to him, you never liked his friends, etc. The list of all the assumptions popping up in your head could go on and on. These assumptions have now created emotions of fear, anger, resent, hurt, etc. The poor boy walks in at twenty past ten and what do you? You pounce! Shout, accuse him of being irresponsible, you may even give him the cold shoulder and ignore him. The result- he goes to bed upset, you go to sleep hurt and angry.
Scenario 2 – You look at the clock and notice that he’s late. You choose not to make any assumptions and decide to act on facts. Your little angel walks in at twenty past ten. You smile and ask him how his night was. He tells you he enjoyed it but got a little anxious half way through the party because the friend who was supposed to drop him off decided he wanted to stay longer. He then had to leave the party early to try and find a bus home. You smile, hug him, and you both go to bed happy and content.
Scenario 3 – Your son walks in at twenty past ten. You are calm due to the fact you decided not make any assumptions. You smile when he walks in and ask him how the party went. You come to understand that the reason for him being late is because he forgot about the time. He doesn’t apologize for his behaviour, so you decide to talk things through. Why don’t you start shouting? Because you’re in control and you haven’t let your emotions get the better of you. He goes to bed respecting you and trusting you more due to the way you dealt with the situation. You go to sleep content that you turned a difficult situation into one, which helped you and your son’s relationship grow.
Moral of the scenarios – don’t act on assumptions, work with facts. Most assumptions aren’t real and often don’t give you the freedom to create the outcomes you want to achieve in life.
HAVE WE AS A SOCIETY DEVELOPED THE HABIT OF BELIEVING OUR ASSUMPTIONS ARE FACTS?
I think we have. We have assumptions about everything from people of different faiths, colours, sizes, relationships, etc. All these assumptions sadly aren’t creating the peaceful world we all want to live in. The solution? Silencing our minds, beginning to train ourselves to act on facts, not assumptions. Give people a chance, give ourselves a chance. However, if worst comes to worst and you can’t get certain assumptions out of your head, try to pause, acknowledge they are there but don’t act accordingly to them, give yourself and reality time to unfold and reveal the truth.